#2 - Midterms, A Wedding, Korean dramas in real life..

Finally have a break on my midterm season! yay, finished STAT 371 which was quite possibly the easiest exam I've ever written, and BUS 481.. eh it was okay, but heard the prof marks hard so we'll see.. have STAT 334 and Tax left, but after that June is pretty much done - "man, where does my time go?" haha..

Went to Denny & Jennifer's wedding few weeks back with my sister, Congrats to the newly-weds! I've never been to a wedding before so I didn't really know what to expect - but it ended up being pretty good.. beautiful place, amazing food, and fun events, it kinda reminded me of one of those Korean drama episodes but overall the wedding itself was nice.

This was the table my sis and I were sitting at the wedding, fancy and pink - pretty nice no?

So why did I say it felt like one of those Korean drama episodes? For one thing the groom's family and my family used to be good friends. Yes. Used To Be. I've not seen the groom nor their family for about 3 years. To be honest I was very surprised we were invited in the first place. There were also a lot of people there that my family used to be close with. I won't get into details about what happened but sometimes things happen that ends up with one person losing respect for another, and that leads to a friend becoming just an "acquaintance".

It was weird because Korean parents tend to assume that their kids don't know what is going on about their relationships with other families. Especially the ones they meet at church. It's always "at the church" with Korean parents.. they meet some people, and then they become friends, and then all of a sudden you have new friends because your parents' new friends have kids as well. So what happens when those parents don't get along very well? all of a sudden your new friends aren't really "friends" anymore. It's really stupid and childish if you think about it. One moment you're like "hey - our parents are friends, so let's be friends!" and then the next it's like "I can't talk to you because our parents aren't friends anymore"... that's something that happens in Korean dramas OFTEN.. maybe not exactly the same but the gist of it.

It's even worse when you have to pretend you have no idea what is going on, and say hello and bow to the "not-so-friends-anymore" parents because they think you don't know and pretend nothing is going on and greets you like they did before.. they don't know that we know, but we also don't know that they know that we know... so it's just this whole fake/pretend bullshit that happens inside a CHURCH. This is one of the reasons why I dislike Korean churches - it's a shame.. Real Shame..

Anyway, I don't even remember what my point is anymore - basically, this shouldn't happen. especially around people who believe in God and go to church.. Like I said, I was very surprised when we were invited to the wedding, but that doesn't mean I didn't want to go or I felt obligated to go because I didn't want their parents to think that our parents didn't let us go.. I attended because I wanted to truly congratulate a person who once treated me as if he was my real older brother, and doing so was my way of thanking him for the past. No matter what the current situation is.

Glad I got that off my chest... this blog stuff is wicked.

-DL

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